Sigh.
Guess I'm just old fashioned. If people are having sex they should know each other long and well enough to be comfortable giving small guidance.
And I'm sorry if your ego, Mr. Male (not you specifically, IHSV), is so fragile that you can't handle the fact that merely being in you presence doesn't trip my trigger.
To use a phrase from the sixties, fake orgasms are so plastic.
Quite true.
It's not the ego FM, it's just that some women merit doing a kabuki dance, and some don't.