I'm in the process of getting her to join a church youth group, but she's resisting. When I was first told about the group I hedged a bit and said, "I don't know if she'll really feel comfortable. She has 'unusual' taste in clothes. I reign it in, but she simply refuses to wear... a-hem... normal clothes." The woman asked, "Does she dress like she's trying hard to fit in at a Manson concert?" I grumbled, "Yes." She started laughing. "Oh! She'll fit right in!"
It might have made a little difference that my daughter spent most of her life outside the US and wasn't exposed much to the US culture or fashion trends. I'd still be homeschooling if I could, but she has a gift of evangelism and she needs to be in public school. She has a gift for sharing Christ. "And a little child shall lead them...."