Well, nowadays, shallow appearances is what it's all about. Fill out your SHAPE questionnaire and voila, you're a mature believer! Take Class 301 and you're qualified to lead!
...Or bow at the pastor's feet, rather than to God. Here's a new twist: A local pastor won't let any staffer quit, or he refuses to give a good recommendation. They can only leave on the pastor's terms, because he doesn't want to look bad...
Controlling? Yikes!