When a receiver puts his hand on the DB's chest and delivers a stiff arm with a full extension for the push off, that will almost always be (correctly) called offensive pass interference, unless the receiver's name happens to be Randy Moss. Get over it. It was a correct call regardless of what Michael Irvin (not the most objective source on the subject of offensive PI though one of the more experienced in the area), Steve Young, and John "Oh heck that wasn't a penalty" Madden have to say about it.
When an offensive lineman is flat out beaten by the defensive end so he throws an arm around the guy's neck or shoulder to try to ride him off of the QB (in one case literally tackling him in the other simply slowing him down enough for the QB to get rid of the ball), it will be called holding if it is the 33% of the time that the back judge or ref actually sees it. "Holding, Number 75 Offense" should have been called two or three times more than it was, but the two times that he got called were both good calls. Just because the one that resulted in a big pass being called back was slightly less flagrant than the other one didn't make it a bad call.
Change the calls around and I would love to hear all the steeler fans and Joey Porter complaining, and you know they would, hell they complained about one bad call in the Indy when they were winning that game and won and they were still complaining.
Great Synopsis, this does sound like an Al Gore Moaning Session.
And note that Bens crossing the plane was totally reviewed and upheld. Those refs know they are going to be picked apart and they did a fine job.