Wishful thinking my as$ (but that is neither here nor there). Nor did I ever say we shouldn't use force.
I said there is a role for both! If you are going to be effective in the long run (without question). Hell we rebuilt Europe and Japan (and we are still defending them 60 years later!!).
Additionally not every problem has the same solution. The Middle East is very different from both Europe and Asia.....those who don't understand this reality are simply lost.
Of course you use force (and we have) but once that has been established you use other (non-forceful methods) as much as possible...in order to win the trust and respect of those you are working with.
We have fought and continue to fight the most successful unconventional war in history.....Since Sept 11th, 2001 our enemies have suffered one strategic defeat after another...we have have not suffered one....This is by accident.