She sure as hell doesn't deserve one more than Catavellanus or Caratacus.
Guess I really rattled your cage.
She wasn't a soldier, she wasn't a warrior, she was a queen. She had been abused horribly and struck back in the only way she could at the moment. I'm not sure we could have done better.
You can't defend the Romans in this situation - their actions were as deplorable as those of Varus in Germany and just as stupid. The only thing which saved them from another Teutoberger Wald was the fact that she wasn't an experienced commander.
She was however, a patriot and I think she desserves recognition for the try.
You and I looking back in retrospect can't farily condemn her as we don't know what she knew and didn't know about her opponents.
And yes, the Romans generally treated conquered people fairly well by ancient standards - once they were subdued. That was why the Empire succeeded and its predecessors did not. They practised ASSIMILATION. But in this case they screwed up big time with the Iceni. The whole situation shouldn't have happened in the first place.