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You can't talk to parents who are engaging in this kind of behavior. They tend to tell you to mind your own business. Or get violent. If you call child services (and I have) they don't seem to do very much. Teens are usually left in the house unless its a truly horrible situation. Some parents lie their a$$es off to the police or child services and it makes it worse on the kids. My one son I was able to get after he tried to slit his wrists at age 13. Yes it was that bad at his house. Hardly any food and a drunken father and a depressed mother who just was too worn out to care for her kids. My ex husband went over and told the father he was coming with us or he would personally knock the $hit out of him. My ex husband is 6 ft 5 and meant what he said. The mother was put away for depression and I think the father was glad not to have another mouth to feed. I have taken all 3 of his brothers in from time to time too. They would always end up back home because I believe in tough love and zero tolerance if you break house rules. The other one I got because the mother was single, not too bright and left him alone at the age of 6 so she could work nights. I first just took him nights but over the years he just began to stay here until he was fully moved in. I love them both like my own. Both have done well in their lives and the oldest got married, bought a house and has two beautiful children. The newest baby born on my 7 yr old daughters birthday, 10/12 of this year. The other one is trying to start his own business. Both were never legally adopted because the parents wouldn't sign the papers but they ARE my children. I have always had good relationships with my children's friends and many call me mom. I was the mother who always would sit and listen to their problems and always would cook for them. You would be shocked at how many kids ate here over the years. Many I taught table manners as they had none. Holidays here at my house are large as many of these kids didn't even get a holiday meal. Many of these teens are now adults and they still call me and still come for holiday meals