I don't know about a 9 years old. But there is a difference between a young girl going through pregnancy and a young boy getting off. I don't think many teenage boys would be all that traumatized in having sex with a women.
No,most teen boys would not be TRAUMATIZED by sex with an adult woman but they be on the road to a very distorted view of sexuality featuring liberal “if it feels good do it”types of morality and disdain for monogamy and sexual fidelity.
And I’m no saint either.I was a proponent of the “if it moves,f*** it”ethic back in the day.Yet I know now that was wrong.Funny how it takes decades of bad behavior to come around to God’s way.
While not AS bad, you are both wrong.