[null and void]

If I may repost something I posted on another thread?

#3 and the following paragraphs seem like the may be relevant here...

Indeed! I think there are three main reasons arranged marriages have a high success rate:

1) The couple goes into the marriage without unrealistically high expectations.
2) The families don’t select based on lust.
3) In the societies that practice arranged marriage it is very likely that the first sexual partner is the new spouse.

By the time they have worked their way through the Kama Sutra (for example) they are pretty thoroughly imprinted on each other.

Contrast that to the dozens or even scores of partners the typical bride and groom may have here, the sense of bonding is so blurred and degraded that it can’t act as a glue to hold them together.

414 posted on 11/14/2007 2:09:49 PM PST by null and void

[thulldud]

Contrast that to the dozens or even scores of partners the typical bride and groom may have here, the sense of bonding is so blurred and degraded that it can’t act as a glue to hold them together.

One writer I saw put it like this: "A woman who is communal property is beyond individual interest."

[bvw]

Good points. And even when the marriage between two who met on their own -- they are wise to get their families "advice and consent" before moving in with each other, before engaging, before marrying.

And the family's advice that says not to "move in" before marriage is good advice.

[Palladin]

So true. Wish we could return to those simpler times and practices.