Are Men Boring?

The Telegraph ^ | 11 June 2008 | Sabine Durrant

[swain_forkbeard]

I have found that being boring is generally better for my health.

[Little Ray]

If a woman tells a man about a problem, he start looking for solutions, not commiserating. Or, worse, he says they are not all that bad... “You're tough, you can handle it.”

This, of course, is encouragement between men, but a good way to spend the night on the couch if you tell it to your wife.

It usually requires a conscious decision on the part of a man to execute the “poor baby” protocols after a woman tells him about her trials (and sometimes we forget!). This is because, if one man did that to another man, he would think that the first man was insulting him, or, worse, that he was gay.

[Appleby]

You can thank Spiro Agnew! :)

[Spok]

People who no interest in anything but themselves are boring.

[Night Hides Not]

I have found that being boring is generally better for my health.

LOL...agree 100%! My wife used to get on me about not expressing myself to her. Every time I tell her what's on my mind, she gets pi$$ed off.

I know why the average husband dies seven years before his spouse: it's God's way of giving a guy a break before eternity really kicks in.

[jusduat]

I try to ask my Husband only yes and no questions when I
really need an answer. He has to give reasons, background,
options, everything about his decision process. It's not so
much boring, as not helpful and usually pointless. I mostly
do not care which way he decides, only that I get direction.

[wbill]

The more macho a man is, the more boring he can be - that's why gay men are generally better company

I got to this point and said "enough".

Gay men may be better company....but if a girl wants to discuss something more relationship oriented than the latest plot to "Sex and the City" or which shoes go with what outfit...they're not much good for that.

Typical lib female rant: "If only all men were as fun as my gay friends...." Well, sweetie, that's why there's a difference.

[doodad]

Will this woman never shut up?

Which is why the good Lord gave us guitar amps.

[wbill]

I explained that I’m just not that deep Occasionally, Mrs. WBill asks me what I'm thinking. The answer is usually "Nothing." It's not a lie...there's nothing going on right at that particular second.

Sometimes - if indeed it's what I'm considering at the moment - I describe to her the particulars of a major computer issue at work, or the fundamentals of a stock that I'm thinking about buying...and her eyes glaze over.

Now that we've been together for 10 years or so, she doesn't ask me that question as much as she used to.

[Interesting Times]

Best not to sand the cat. Shave, dry, then apply a light coat of shellac.

[ctdonath2]

A lot of husbands are simply worn down by the incessant chatter and nagging and therefore become "boring".

Exactly. Why say anything if you will immediately be attacked or derailed for it? especially if what's said isn't what's expected/desired/demanded? If your opinion isn't what was given you, it will be erased with extreme prejudice and replaced with what's expected - even if the original opinion was indeed honest, insightful, and/or correct.

[ctdonath2]

Definition:

bore - someone who talks about themselves when you want to talk about yourself.

[Hatteras]

"!...that being said whats the point here?"

Why DO they call them "grandstands" when they are used to sit down?

[AngryJawa]

My wife used to get on me about not expressing myself to her. Every time I tell her what's on my mind, she gets pi$$ed off.

Been there, done that. It's easier on my nerves to stifle myself, strap on the boxing gloves, and go give the heavy bag a thumping for a while. Talking is overrated.

[PapaBear3625]

Deborah Tannen, professor of linguistics at Georgetown University, Washington DC, imagined in her book You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation (1990) a simple scenario of a man and a woman driving along in a car.

The woman says: "Would you like to stop for a coffee?" The man says, "No", and the woman seethes for the rest of the journey because she would have quite liked to stop for a coffee. In her mind, her enquiry was the opening to a negotiation.

One good rule for having a conversation with a guy: don't ask questions that can be answered with "yes" or "no" if you don't want yes/no answers

Another good rule: say what you really mean. The woman above would have been better off saying "I'm in the mood for some coffee. How do you feel about pulling over someplace?"

[Oztrich Boy]

She made her point in the first four sentences. Will this woman never shut up?

She gets paid to write. That's a legitimate reason to.

[ctdonath2]

A step further: don’t expect him to do something if you haven’t told him you expect him to do something. Launching into “I’m upset because you didn’t do X!” when there was no reason for him to even think about X, much less know it was expected, is frustratingly unfair. Men don’t read minds.

[NavyCanDo]

Mark Gungor - Men’s Brain Women’s Brain

This little (funny) video explains it all. It is sooooo true...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0BxckAMaTDc

[paulat]

http://www.thenewyorkerstore.com/product_details.asp?mscssid=4P9F5XL1P94G8H&sitetype=1&did=4&sid=40960&pid=&keyword=travel&section=cartoons&title=Travel&whichpage=22&sortBy=popular

Wish I could post this cartoon...but you made me LOL and I thought of it!

[Adder]

Lets see...the article about how boring women are is where?

The one guy extolled his son and the other talked sports....her contributions were so much more....like....ummmm....

She, and the article assert men are boring...so it must be true when in thruth it was the most boring and self serving drivel one could imagine.

Go fix me a sandwhich, woman!