Are Men Boring?

The Telegraph ^ | 11 June 2008 | Sabine Durrant

[Titus Quinctius Cincinnatus]

After a nightmare evening trapped between two egos, Sabine Durrant set out to discover when and why men started boring for Britain

Recently, at a friend's 40th birthday dinner, I sat between an advertising executive who expounded on his son's musical talent and academic promise, and a commercial lawyer who was keen to drum home the possessive in the phrase "my team".

'There seem to be genuinely primitive pairings between vivacious, chatty women and men who are the opposite' By pudding, I wanted to push back my chair and introduce them. "John, meet Josh. You've a lot in common. He's an insufferable bore as well."

In the car afterwards, I asked my partner - who, as usual, had been a mainly silent presence - how his evening had been. Did he answer? It was blood from a stone if he did.

[Titus Quinctius Cincinnatus]

Typical male strengths - focus, dedication, self-belief - might thrust men up the ladder at work and lead them to do most of the talking in certain contexts - in meetings, in Parliament, in the law courts, in tutorials, in panel discussions on television: contexts in which conversation has a purpose.

So basically, she is saying that men talk about things that matter, while women don't?

[Conspiracy Guy]

I am very boring. Ask my wife.

[Jakarta ex-pat]

That’s funny, I was just about to ask that question of my cat.

[fml]

Yes

[The_Media_never_lie]

Sometimes I wonder why mine keeps me ‘round.

[Hegemony Cricket]

Yes. Yes, we are.

Next question.

[Conspiracy Guy]

My wife keeps me around to help her feel even more superior.

[Izzy Dunne]

to discover when and why men started boring for Britain

Not all men are boring for Britain, you know.

[east1234]

Mine used to probe for some kind of depth. I explained that I’m just not that deep. She didn’t buy it, we’re divorcing in August. Next time it’s with a pre-nup. Hey at least we can learn.

[reagan_fanatic]

I tried to ask my Wife this very question, but she fell asleep before I could finish it.

[Izzy Dunne]

Recent research shows there are essential differences in the functioning of the male and female brain.

Stop the presses! News Flash!

[Ellendra]

“Recent research shows there are essential differences in the functioning of the male and female brain.”

It took them how long to figure this out?

Men are not “boring” for the most part, they just don’t talk the way women do. Ladies, quit trying to turn your man into one of your girlfriends!

Generally speaking, and this is very general, women talk to connect, while men talk to convey. When a man and woman are talking to each other, they often might as well be speaking different languages. Keep that in mind, and quit judging your man by woman’s standards. He’s not a woman.

[jrd]

by the same token I’ve heard it said that women are only good for three things!...that being said whats the point here?

[caver]

“In the car afterwards, I asked my partner”

Why does it seem that everyone in Britain has a “partner”?

[longtermmemmory]

men are not boring. This woman is defining “solutions” contrasted with “hourse of endless whining” as boring.

pissing and moaning rather than seeking solutions is pointless. It is appropriate a member of the dinosaur media is comming to this conclusion.

She forgets that business men have slowly abandoned their primitive form of information transmission to better means.
I bet the readership of the paper has shifted dramatically to majority women.

It is all about the operational definition. This woman is defining “interesting” as being a bull dyke feminist type.

[dfwgator]

Men don’t like to talk about work at home, why do women think we want to listen about their work at home.

[AngryJawa]

So basically, she is saying that men talk about things that matter, while women don't?

If she isn't, she should be because it's generally true. A lot of husbands are simply worn down by the incessant chatter and nagging and therefore become "boring".

A fitting corollary to this would be "men only listen to things that matter, while women won't shaddup about things that don't"

[longtermmemmory]

for the same reason california HAS outlawed “mother” and “father”. They are trying to extinguish the fact homosexuality is ONLY ABOUT recreational sex.

If her “partner” is not a woman, he should be for being eunach enough to date this feminist schrew.

[Hegemony Cricket]

Hehehe - I don’t really believe we are, either. Abrupt answers are just my knee-jerk reaction to stupid vacuous questions like that... :-)

[Biblebelter]

What is boring here is NOT gender. It is the method of communication. The women who are whining here are all about talk. They cannot be pleased. That want to have men listen to the narcissistic chatter about themselves or they expect men to talk about subjects which they are interested in. Desirable relationships between men and women have chemistry. And chemistry has a lot to do with non-verbal communication. On the internet, I am a very verbal fellow. But in person, the best communication is most often the non-verbal kind. And that does not always have to be between a man and a woman. As kid my parents did not have to say a lot to me, I could enter a room, soak up a couple of minutes and know all I needed to know and what was expected of me, all without the utterance of a single word.