They don't believe that Jesus is God, as defined in John 1:1. Christians believe in the Deity of Christ.
Biblically speaking, the best prayer that can be said for these folks is that they repent of their sin and ask for the sacrifice of Jesus apply to their sin debt. Jesus is God, not just an example. The problem between them and God is their sin. And Jesus's sacrifice on the Cross is the answer to that problem.
I realize that's what I said is probably not the most "sensitive" or "caring" thing to say at a time like this but it's Scripturally accurate.
As long as I'm in Bible accuracy mode, it doesn't do any good to pray for the souls of the dead. It's in the here and now where we respond to God's gift of faith in Jesus or not. I'll supply Scripture on this if asked.
There are a lot of things that are accurate to say at any given time. Knowing when the appropriate time to say or write them is, and how best to do so, takes the labored attention of love and genuine concern for the people and not the argument. If your daughter comes to you and asks "Daddy, am I ugly?" and she is not very attractive at all, do you think love is best served by saying "Why, yes, honey, you are ugly." You can take all kinds of cold comfort in the fact that you did not lie and were accurate, but you will have missed an opportunity to help your daughter build upon her inner beauty and any interest she will ever have in coming to you about her most deep-seated fears and concerns. You will have won the award for "Mr. Honesty," and lost the more important award for "Super-Dad."
If your comments are offensive or insensitive, the very people you are wanting to win to your argument could not care less about your accuracy. Your comments were, in my opinion, ham-handed and insensitive. No one (again, in my opinion) is attracted to your position due to this.
When Jesus was telling the apostles how people would know who were his true disciples, his refrain was, over and over again in the gospel of John, "they will know you by your love for one another." Is that how people know you on these kind of threads - ones about tragedy and horrible loss of life? Is that the reputation you have earned? Once you have earned that kind of trust with people, then you will know in your heart when the proper time to confront doctrinal (and important) disputes or errors. This thread is not the right one.
it doesn't do any good to pray for the souls of the dead.
I looked back at my post looking for even a hint of me suggesting you or anyone else do so and I cannot divine that in any of my posts. Perhaps I am overlooking something, or maybe you are confusing my post with another.