Posted on 09/07/2008 12:05:56 PM PDT by reaganaut1
Like the women two decades ago who decided to become mothers on their own — sparking a redefinition of family, not to mention a culture war — single men, gay and straight, hear the ticking biological clock. And they are moving beyond looking for Ms. or Mr. Right.
Now, with fertility technology or adoption, the men are becoming single fathers. Last month, the singer Ricky Martin, 36, became the father of twins by surrogacy. Mr. Martin intends to be the sole parent, his publicist, John Reilly, said.
Statistics on single fathers by choice are few, but there are indications that while they make up a sliver of the demographic pie, their numbers are growing. Surrogacy agencies, surveys on adoption and father support groups all say that they are seeing more single fathers by choice. Most of these men are gay, agencies say, but there are also straight men seeking to become fathers.
Whether through surrogacy or adoption, the obstacles remain high: the cost for surrogacy can be upward of $100,000. And single men can have a difficult time persuading surrogate mothers, egg donors, adoption agencies and birth mothers that they would be suitable parents. They often end up at the bottom of the preference list, if at all.
Adam Pertman, the executive director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, a research group, said policies vary by agency and by state (Florida has an outright ban on adoptions by homosexuals), but single men face stereotypes and suspicion.
“There’s some residual sentiment among some people,” he said, listing typical objections. “Women are better nurturers. Why would a man want to raise a child?”
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I threw my wife out and I raised my four kids as a single father. Sent them all thru private school and had a lot of help.
“I threw my wife out and I raised my four kids as a single father.”
I know that sentence was not meant to be funny but the wording made me LOL.
well in Ricky Martin’s case, he will just hire a nanny.
Trust me........ it really wasn’t funny.
Who got the dog?
Please !! Ricky is not single , the NY Slimes won’t inform its readers about Ricky male spouse !Its the worst kept secret in Miami Beach ! Frankly .who cares but please use another example for this story !
Who really won?
Who really won?
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