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I would specifically give my wife permission to move on with her life by leaving me.In fact,I'd basically *insist* that she did so.

My 2cents. I discovered the best in myself when my infant child faced almost certain death...then almost certain 'non viable life'...almost certain mental retardation...after being misdiagnosed when having spinal meningitis. In each instance he was given a 25% chance for any recovery. I had to dig deeper that I thought possible for strength. I found an inner strength, which these 30 something years later has served me well. I highly recommend you allow your wife to find her own path should you ever be in such a condition. She may find she needs to leave...or she may find an inner strength that she'd not have the opportunity to discover otherwise. /my 2 cents

P.S. My son made a miraculous recovery and is a wonderful, self sufficient, self supporting, tax paying adult American today.

Great to hear that your boy made a complete...or nearly complete...recovery.Yours is obviously a story of exceptional courage,and love,on your part.The big difference in your case,however,is that we're taking about a child.That's an entirely different ballgame,IMO.

But I *do* hear what you're saying about allowing her to "find her own path".Perhaps it would be better for my attitude to be that I wouldn't *insist* on her leaving.But I still would give her permission to do so and,in fact,I'd argue vigorously in favor of her doing so.