Here’s another side......
My MIL, a serious student of English History and literature, and former bank president, is now little more than a child in her dotage. Witnessing the agony of her daughters trying to cope with her declining mental/physical state is trying, to say the least !
How do you comfort a wife whose mother is little more than an infant ? A mother whose greatest pride was her mind, ( and her greatest fear was its loss) ?
And I’m facing the same issues myself, it seems !
So who “determines dignity” ? For my MIL, it seems it devolves upon her daughters. I can only be supportive. In my case, I’ve already made certain determinations based upon defined presenting conditions.
At some point we all must ask ourselves how much moral/ethical/legal burden are we willing to place upon our wives/husbands/children in these “end of life” decisions ?
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Are you suggesting that the solution is to kill her?
My own mother is in a home now, near us. She has severe dimensia and is 86 years old.
She can remember very little and is slowly forgetting even how to eat.
We love her, we visit her often. Generally she is happy.
I am thanksful she is still here and my kids and grandkids can go with me to visit her and I can tell them stories and show them pictures of how she used to be.
The timing, IMHO, of end of life (though we all must make decisions and arrangements regarding it) is and should be in God’s hands.
So, you consider it a "burden" to care for a sick family member?
What would your preferred solution be?
Do you support euthanasia? YES or NO
I notice you just joined FR within the last year, perhaps you weren't aware that this is a PRO-LIFE forum.
“At some point we all must ask ourselves how much moral/ethical/legal burden are we willing to place upon our wives/husbands/children in these “end of life” decisions ?”
I love the arrogance of your post. You start by saying “heres another side” like none of us have experienced anything like your situation. Lol! Think again.
I dont consider caring for an ill family member a moral/ethical/legal burden, and I will raise my daughter to feel the same. You need to check yourself. Sounds like you’re advocating the pillow treatment for your MIL.
And I’m facing the same issues myself, it seems !
So who “determines dignity” ? For my MIL, it seems it devolves upon her daughters. I can only be supportive. In my case, I’ve already made certain determinations based upon defined presenting conditions.
And you propose what? Killing her as a solution?
At some point we all must ask ourselves how much moral/ethical/legal burden are we willing to place upon our wives/husbands/children in these “end of life” decisions?
Murdering an "inconvenient" person is moral?
It's not a moral burden to care for someone who is ill. It is a moral burden to have the murder of them on your conscience. Does that give dignity to a person, or just reduce them to a commodity that you dispose of when it's no longer useful?
I always say this to the pro-murder couched as death with dignity morons and they always chicken out:
Lead by example.
For some reason, they don’t want to.
They’re content to hold that idea until such time as their life is ‘inconvenient’ for someone else.
Until then, whenever someone is inconvenient to THEM, oops, oh well.
Right?
So stop couching murder in the name of personal convenience with flowery terms like “death with dignity” because there’s no such thing.
Wassa matta?
Kitty got yer tongue?
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When your wife was an infant, her mother cared for her. Should she do less? Our lives have a symmetry.
When you were a child your parents fed you, clothed you, nursed you, wiped your butt, changed your diaper, cleaned up your vomit, provided for all your needs for most kids for at least 18 years. Yet you want to piss and moan about returning as much as they gave you back to them?
And I’m facing the same issues myself, it seems !
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Oh my, and this disabled person was zotted. Interesting......