I have three rules:
#1 Never use my hand.
#2 Never spank out of anger.
#3 Always sit down with the child afterwards and explain why it was necessary and that I love them.
“#1 Never use my hand.”
I only used my hand. My kids could EASILY distinguish when it was meant for their butts and when it was not.
BINGO - 1,2,3
“I have three rules:
#1 Never use my hand.
#2 Never spank out of anger.
#3 Always sit down with the child afterwards and explain why it was necessary and that I love them.”
I’m not sure about the hand part. A hand can better judge the amount of force being applied.