What *mother* wouldn’t?
Actually, if I were talking to you about your dead daughter, regardless of whether her body is on a respirator, I would call her by name. But I also wouldn't mince words--I would say that she has died.
I once had to sit with the mother of a brain dead boy and collect information for his death certificate. It was totally heart-wrenching. All I could think of is what if I had to deal with the death of my son like that... I really feel for people in that situation, but I am also a realist. I think that the longer this situation is prolonged, the worse it is for the family's psychological health.
Knowing that everything *truly* had been done, helps alleviate grief.
This is going to cultivate anger and guilt and make recovery impossible.
I think the “Dem” part of your moniker is guiding you now....