Writer: It’s Okay If an 11-Year-Old Has an Abortion

Life News ^ | 10/15/14 | Micaiah Bilger

[wagglebee]

I read a lot of terrible abortion stories for my job, but some break my heart more than others.

A few weeks ago, I came across a column in the New York Magazine written by an abortion doula. Curious, I clicked on the story and read about the young woman, who provides emotional support for women as they have abortions.

I began to feel more and more horrified as I read about her work and her attempts to justify really terrible things. She writes:

“A year ago, when I was just starting out, Mitchell met with me and the other trainees to talk about the job. We sat in the park, eating pie. She gave us a sheet with situations so exaggeratedly horrible they seemed unreal: An 11-year-old in for an abortion who asks for birth control when she’s alone with the doctor. Her mother works nights; she’d been left with a friend who has a twentysomething son. She calls him her boyfriend; he will go to jail. A woman who says she’d like to do another ultrasound to see if it’s definitely a girl, because she’ll only keep it if it isn’t...

“’What do you assume?’ Mitchell asked of each case. ‘How can you be supportive?’ We talked about what would be hard for us to overcome, things we might say or do and how we might feel. I felt embarrassed by my assumptions, and the limits of my compassion. I judged these women on the worthiness of their reasons (‘Would she really only keep a boy?’ I wondered) and found myself questioning why those who come in for late-term abortions had waited so long to decide. Later, I learned from Mahoney that all the examples were real cases that had come from her first six months working as an abortion doula.” (You can read the full article here. Parts of it are graphic.)

I hung my head in anger and shame as I read about this young woman from my own generation, a young woman so caught up in the net of moral relativism that she believes it is compassionate to dismiss the rape of an 11-year-old or condone the woman who is aborting her baby simply because she’s a girl.

My generation place high moral value on the idea of acceptance and non-judgment. I think it comes from college, where we’ve been taught moral relativism – your morals aren’t better than mine, and mine aren’t better than yours. We have no right to judge someone else’s actions or beliefs. There is no right or wrong.

Acceptance, inclusiveness, a judgment-free attitude – these are all good things. But when these concepts are taken to the extreme of moral relativism, they become dangerous, and this article is a perfect example of it. Acceptance and non-judgment are no excuse for ignoring things that are truly terrible.

Sometimes people are wrong. Rape is wrong. Taking advantage of a child is wrong. Sex trafficking is wrong. Ignoring the victim of a crime is wrong. Killing an innocent person is wrong.

I could feel the columnist struggling with right and wrong throughout her column. Some situations seemed wrong to her, and rightly so. Yet, moral relativism won the hour.

Let’s not let it win the day. Abortion is wrong. We must never shy away from saying it – though we also must be compassionate when we do. Contrary to what moral relativists would have us believe, realizing that something is wrong opens the doors for us to extend a hand of compassion and love to those who are hurting. And that is true compassion.

LifeNews Note: Micaiah Bilger is the Education Director for the Pennsylvania Pro-Life Federation.

[wagglebee]

Contrary to what moral relativists would have us believe, realizing that something is wrong opens the doors for us to extend a hand of compassion and love to those who are hurting. And that is true compassion.

Exactly!

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[a fool in paradise]

Where does an 11-year old get the money to have an abortion without notifying her parents?

And for those who are brought in by their mothers, how many have been coerced into the abortion?

[Dilbert San Diego]

And how does an 11 year old get pregnant in the first place? Isn’t that pregnancy itself evidence of child statutory rape, if not forcible “rape rape” to paraphrase Whoopi Goldberg??

I’ve seen studies which indicates that many young girl pregnancies are caused by adult men, not by teenage boyfriends of these girls. There really should be criminal follow-up to investigate how these girls got pregnant. But don’t think it happens.

[HiTech RedNeck]

From the father or father’s family I’d guess. An attempt to cover up that thing even if it was by an underage father and therefore legally juvenile delinquency. They figure it’s cheaper than child support. They don’t realize how such evil cheapens their souls.

It is what we see in a world where love is fainting and lust runs rampant.

[bigbob]

Abortion addresses the symptom of what is wrong here, not the cause.

[al_c]

So … is it okay for an 11 year old to have sex in the first place?

These pro-aborts are truly twisted.

[HiTech RedNeck]

And so, in most modern cases, does plain vanilla contraception.

Love has been chased away; lust has been welcomed as if it were a hero.

[Pollster1]

There is something seriously wrong with these people. It is not under any circumstances okay for an 11 y/o to have sex. If an 11 y/o is pregnant, there are a whole lot of issues, none of which are okay. It’s sad just how lost this writer is.

[a fool in paradise]

Below a certain age, Planned Parenthood is supposed to notify authorities as a case of suspected child abuse (or maltreatment). They coach the young girls to lie to keep the authorities out of it. They are also coached to lie about the age of their male partner.

Planned Parenthood is pro-rape and permits child abusers to continue their crimes without investigation or prosecution.

[Albion Wilde]

From the NYT article to which the author refers:

"To some on the left, drawing any more attention to the messiness of the procedure and the decisions surrounding it would mean potentially undermining the work of the political movement."

[Albion Wilde]

Again, from the NYT article referenced by the author:

"There are now ten abortion doula organizations around the country, most of them in Southern states, where safety concerns are greater and the prevailing anti-abortion political and religious views put added pressure on women seeking abortion."

I'm seeing the hands of Soros and the anti-Southern, anti-Christian Democrat bigots all over this one. As if a huge number of anti-abortion Catholics don't live in the Northeast.

[Albion Wilde]

Again, the NYT story:

"Most first-trimester abortions are vacuum aspiration. The machine sounds like a sucking through a straw when you’re at the bottom of the glass. The vacuuming is sometimes painful, but I think patients find the sound harder to bear. LiteFM stations play in the background. Most first-trimester abortions take fewer than four songs. Sitting in bars with my friends on summer nights, I hear the same songs and wonder after the women.

"Honesty is a core principle of being a doula. But I quickly learn that you do whatever you need to and mostly that is to tell the truth, but sometimes you are dishonest. In the beginning, I shadow a more experienced doula as she reassures a patient that the woman in the next room screaming wildly is not here for the same procedure, though, of course, she is."

Lord, have mercy!