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Tiffany
12/13/201227

My sister was a person I loved dearly. She was the only other person who understood what it was like to see our mom angry. The difference between me and her was that she let mom’s words get to her. Tiffany lost all her self confidence growing up. Instead of trying to tame our mom, she adding fuel to the fire. I never understood why she did, sometimes it would annoy me that she did, but I always worried for her. Tiffany started drinking and got into drugs at a young age. I knew about it, but I never told my parents. I never thought she would ever get hurt from it. I couldn’t have been more wrong.

Tiffany got in a terrible car accident when she was a teenager. Everyone is the car was drunk. It was so hard to see the condition that she was in, but she was extremely lucky. It could have been a lot worse. Once Tiffany was released from the hospital, our mom always picked fights with her. She gave her such a hard time, but not really about her drinking. She gave Tiffany a hard time about everything that she had to deal with now because of the accident that happened. Tiffany knew she had it coming, but she didn’t a word, instead she sort of curled up into a protective ball, pretending that our mother wasn’t even talking to her.

When Tiffany was barely 30, her drinking problem got so bad that she had to go into rehab. That was the first thing I heard when I got back from my honeymoon. I was extremely worried about her, and hoped that rehab would really help her. Later, she was released, but things weren’t much better. She was more fidgety and seemed scared. A few weeks later, Tiffany returned to rehab. All my mom could see was how much it was going to cost, not that her daughter needs some serious help. After being released they all came to visit me and Wray. Tiffany and I got some time to ourselfs and we talked. I realized how scared she was. She had our dad by her side all the time, but she wanted comfort from our mom. Something we never got. It was then I realized how much our mom hurt her, how broken Tiffany was.

Because of money issues my parents and Tiffany had to move out of the house they were currently living in. Tiffany and my dad found a nice small place while my mom stayed with her sister. I thought things were going to calm down now and everything was going to be alright. I was wrong. My dad called me one night, and the moment he spoke I knew something was wrong. Tiffany was dead. Alone in the bathroom, Tiffany passed away.

I wrote a letter to my mom telling her that I had had enough. The cycle was going to end with me.

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Dad 12/16/2012 4:34pm
I am so proud of you, Melissa. I wish I would’ve been there more for you guys. I’m so sorry. I’m so grateful that you came out on top in this situation and decided you’d end the cycle. You are an amazing mom and a wonderful person. Remember that I’m always here for you and that I love you very much.

Wray 12/16/2012 5:35pm
I am also very proud of you. You are so strong Melissa. The way you handled everything was truly amazing. Tiffany would be very proud. I know you miss her very much, as do the rest of us. Just remember if you ever want to talk, I’m here for. You’re a wonderful mom, wife, and person. I think you are doing a lot of good by sharing your story. I love you!