You sound powerful and ready. I agree with FRiends. You aren’t helping anyone as that buffer now, or enabler. I was, too, for a long time. Then he quit, and nothing changed. Except the alcohol consumption. No other changes. The same personality of blaming others and retreating. Depression and inertia. We are separated until he shows any effort at all toward us. Holding my breath, ha ha ha.
Yes, dry drunk or dipping into some other compensatory evil.
It’s stupid and sad.
There is no reason to live like this and ultimately become a beggar to everyone.
Fk that.
I was in college, living on my own at 15.
I’d rather walk on glass so I can get to the other side and do the things I want.
I once went snowboarding with this hapless being.
Brought a couple extra boards and boots. We wear the same size.
He pouted the entire day Telling me and his mom he should have his own board.
I laughed and told him to pick whichever one he wanted and it was his.
He actually said he wanted a brand new board and not some cheap cast off.
“Well, lemme add this up. Thise boards have barely been used and the boots too.
Any one of those board cost $1,000.
The boots $250
And the bindings were $200-$300.
The helmets are brand new but cost around $100
The goggles? Whatever, take a couple.
You’ll need two pair of gloves. As you sweat, you change em out mid day.
Nope.
He sat in my car all day. His mom stayed in the lodge.
They were on the California side and I spent the day on the Nevada side, as the best and longest runs are over there.
I took a ski bus back to the lodge.
I’ll never go to Tahoe with this moron again.
And I still have thise boards and they practically never got used and I have several more.
That’s the mentality he has and for the life of me I don’t get it.
He would have nearly $2,000 bucks worth of gear if he had accepted them.
Nothing wrong with them. I just decided I wanted some new shiny object that I saw someone else using or because someone suggested it.
Free is no good?
Gimme a break.
I wish someone would give me something.