Posted on 01/14/2015 9:33:52 AM PST by wagglebee
Before Simons arrival my husband, Scott, and I lost six children through miscarriage. With each loss the sting of pain was greater. After we lost our daughter Faith in September 2008, we rid our home of most of our baby items.
Losing a child is a pain so deep that is difficult for anyone to grasp. It can be like falling down a chasm that seems to have no bottom. The chasm is lined with thorn branches that scrape and pull at your skin when you remember what you have lost.
When we learned we were expecting in early 2010, Scott and I, along with our sons Samuel, at the time age 7, and Sean age 5, were filled with joy and yet terrified at the thought of losing another baby.
On the day of Simons birth we embraced our son with sheer happiness, despite his cleft lip and clenched fists. Although doctors were concerned, our family felt only hope.
On day two of Simons life the echocardiogram revealed that his heart was broken . . . . and so was mine. My son had major heart defects that prevented the efficient oxygenation of his blood, resulting in pulmonary hypertension and severe apnea episodes during which he would stop breathing.
On Simons third day of life, he was diagnosed with trisomy 18, also known as Edwards syndrome. This condition involves an extra chromosome in the sequence of 18 just as trisomy 21 affects the 21st chromosome for people with Down syndrome.
I will never forget when the Neonatologist walked into Simons room and said, The results are in. Simon has full trisomy 18. She then said, Im sorry, and walked out of his room.
Our precious son was now labeled incompatible with life. The medical community looks at statistics and too often decides special needs kids are not worth the effort. Ninety percent of trisomy 18 babies have heart defects and 95 percent arent brought to full term. Many are aborted when their conditions are revealed during prenatal testing. Only one in 6,000 comes into the world.
After Simon was diagnosed with trisomy 18, his care and treatment changed dramatically. We began to hear doctors say Not for Simon when aggressive treatment options were considered.
Struggling with the fragility of Simons life was one thing. Fighting the popular, pragmatic culture that measures human life in terms of dollars rather than dignity, is quite another. As St. Louisan Dr. Steve Cantrell, a parent of Ryan, a deceased trisomy 18 child, stated, Our kids are not disposable and deserve every consideration. The souls and spiritual essence of our children are not disabled. Their physical handicaps exist, but their desire to thrive is not diminished.
Physician Dr. Stephen Braddock, Director of Pediatric Genetics at Cardinal Glennon Childrens Medical Center in St. Louis, adds: I always teach new physicians that children with chromosomal conditions havent read the statistics. These families deserve an informed and thorough discussion of challenges and options they face.
Dr. John Carey, a pediatrician and specialist in medical genetics at University of Utah, believes: Its important for those of us who have the privilege of caring for children with complex conditions to stop, listen, contemplate, take off our shoes and walk with our fellow traveler.
Although we prayed Simon would become strong enough for surgery to repair his damaged heart, he spent the next 88½ days on a roller coaster of good and bad days. In retrospect, every one of those days was a blessed learning and loving opportunity or everyone who knew Simon. That includes his nurses who recognized his special qualities of peace and perseverance, many of his doctors, and our friends and family members who were privileged to meet this remarkable ambassador of love.
At 10:45 a.m. on December 3, 2010, the tears poured from our eyes as Simon left this world for his eternal home. In my struggle to deal with my grief and understand Simons purpose during his short life, I decided to write a book to honor him. Simons story is being revealed to people all over the world. The name of Simons book is Im Not a Syndrome My Name is Simon. If you look closely at the cover, Simon says I Love You in sign language.
A friend and fellow trisomy mom, writer, and researcher, Pamela Healey, Ph.D., describes the book this way: Sheryl Crosiers memoir, I Am Not A Syndrome My Name is Simon, of her journey during her pregnancy and her infant son Simons short but important life, is a story of the heart and spirit. It is also a story of the head that explores the capabilities and constraints of modern medicine and policy, parental rights, and ethical decision making.
God did not bless us with a syndrome. God blessed us with a son. His name was Simon. Simons story is filled with compassion and outrage. It is a story of a child knit together by the hand of God. Each of his days was written and ordained.
LifeNews Note: This first appeared in the newsletter of Missouri Right to Life. Reprinted with permission from NRL News Today.
Amen!
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You can have an apparently perfect newborn baby who lives for just 88 days, and you will never know why this side of eternity. You can have a child with "global cognitive deficits" who grows up to be the staff of support of her parents in their old age.
You could get burst brain aneurysm and die before you finish reading this sentence.
Life and death are in God's hands. Our role is not to evaluate --- thumbs up, thumbs down --- but to live and love our way in this life of mystery.
Face of an angel.
Beautifully stated!!!
Caring for any person is ultimately futile, since we all die.
It costs a lot, breaks hearts, is messy and frustrating.
And yet, when we care for people, we are at our very best as human beings. What else could one invest in that pays huge dividends of love, improved character, maturity, accomplishment, patience, and reverence for human life?
Well speaking as an Obamacare specialist (the way they accuse the Republicans of thinking) you have to consider the costs involved and how there is only a finite amount of government money (as opposed to taxes collected, which are infinite) and how that money has to be shared among all other patients
Obamacare death panel says THUMBS DOWN
We all look forward to seeing him in Heaven, where he will be perfect.
This story is so sad I weep! Simon being my namesake, I feel a special connection to this story. Not to mention I came out after my mother had several miscarriage prior to me.
I’m healthy, thank God, but nothing boils my temper like stories of medical professionals carrying on like they get to make the call on what is a valuable life.
In all fairness, many people just cannot reproduce satisfactorily. There are many reasons for this, especially because reproduction isn’t easy, in fact it is impressively complicated and full of pitfalls.
And many people just do not get a fair shake. But from there, there are two ways to go. Adopt a child and raise them as if they were your own flesh and blood, which is a noble thing to do. They truly will be your child in every substantial way.
The other way is to stubbornly insist that you will reproduce, no matter if after a great struggle you have a child who is crippled and will not live a decent life.
Could the contrast not be greater? In the case of adoption, the emphasis is on the child. In the case of stubbornness, it is all about the parent and what they want.
Well said!
I doubt that anyone would disagree that adoption is a noble and wonderful thing. However, you seem to overlook the FACT that there is a shortage of babies for adoption regardless of race and gender. This isn't the England of Charles Dickens, there aren't scores of orphanages with babies that nobody will adopt.
The other way is to stubbornly insist that you will reproduce, no matter if after a great struggle you have a child who is crippled and will not live a decent life.
What EXACTLY is a "decent life"? Who gets to define it?
Could the contrast not be greater? In the case of adoption, the emphasis is on the child. In the case of stubbornness, it is all about the parent and what they want.
I'm fairly certain that this contrast is basically unknown outside of pro-eugenics circles.
Poor, poor baby. Such beautiful innocence in that face. How could anyone destroy such a creature?
My mother was told by her pediatrician never to become pregnant again after a difficult spontaneous abortion. She had 3 children all now in their 70’s who have lived valuable lives.
Your attitude is profoundly immature. You are not capable of evaluating the value of life.
Why, thank you.
Thank you...
So, you also believe that children like this shouldn't be born? That's very odd.
time to get a new doctor
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