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Facing My 50th Reunion
Townhall.com ^ | August 7, 2015 | Linda Chavez

Posted on 08/07/2015 9:35:02 AM PDT by Kaslin

My 50th high school reunion is still a month away -- time enough to lose the 10 pounds that have crept back on after a successful diet a few years back. I have a feeling all my classmates are in the same boat. Well, maybe not all. As I look through the pictures of those brave enough to post updates to their graduation photos, there are a few who have remained slim, but most are heavier and almost all grayer, except for the minority, who, like me, color their hair. I don't know that I'll make my goal, and maybe I should just give up the ghost.

Why is it that facing one's former classmates seems so daunting? A few friends who are former classmates have already told me they aren't attending. It's not that they don't want to see everybody; it's that they don't want to be seen. Mind you, these are successful, attractive people who have good lives, but they aren't ready to face the fact that they aren't the 18-year-olds they once were.

Fifty years is a big chunk of time, and having that amount of time elapse in your life makes you realize you're old. I remember meeting my Uncle Milton in Sheridan, Wyo., in 1991, where he was attending his 50th high school reunion. At the time, a 50th seemed so far off I couldn't imagine being interested in attending my own. Uncle Milt was an old man to me -- retired, a little on the grumpy side and not someone I could fathom kicking back on the dance floor.

The morning after the event, however, he seemed rejuvenated. He had many stories to tell of what happened to his classmates, who had graduated during WWII. Some had died in the war, and virtually all the boys had served in combat, including Milt, who was a naval officer. Most of his classmates in the small public school had done well despite their modest beginnings. They were, after all, part of the Greatest Generation.

Far fewer of my classmates served during our generation's war in Vietnam. Of the 97 classmates who've signed up for the reunion site, only 11 served in the military -- but that is a far greater number than you'd see today. Only about .5 percent of Americans serve now. But my class is well represented in most other professions: lawyers, teachers, engineers, business owners, police and firefighters, nurses, even an artist or two, a singer, and some writers, as well as homemakers and even a couple of nuns.

Ours was a Catholic school that served a diverse, largely lower middle class parish in the heart of Denver. The nuns and the handful of lay teachers who taught us didn't much care what our parents did -- my father was a house painter and my mother worked in a department store. They expected us to "amount to something," as they would say.

College was not yet the norm. No one ever mentioned I should consider applying to college, though the nuns made sure I took all the classes that would prepare me to do so, including trigonometry and calculus, chemistry, physics and four years of language, Latin and French. When I ended up taking classes at the extension center for the University of Colorado part time while I worked the year after I graduated, I found that writing essays was a lot easier than standing on my feet eight hours a day in 3-inch high heels. I decided college was a better option than following in my mother's footsteps.

My guess is I will hear lots of similar stories from my classmates. And who knows -- we may get so absorbed in listening to one another's lives that we won't even notice those extra pounds. I hope so, because a month seems a very short time to try to get rid of the accumulated freight of 50 years.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial
KEYWORDS: 50; 50renion; 50reunion; aging; hsreunions; lindachavez; reunions
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1 posted on 08/07/2015 9:35:02 AM PDT by Kaslin
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To: Kaslin

I attended my 55th HS reunion a few months ago—and believe me, nobody will care how much you weigh. They will just be mighty glad to see you!

Have fun!


2 posted on 08/07/2015 9:43:32 AM PDT by basil
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To: basil

We’re getting older...


3 posted on 08/07/2015 9:46:06 AM PDT by brivette (lol~)
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To: Kaslin

My 20th is just a few weeks away. I remember my mom’s 20th....I may have made fun of her for being old.


4 posted on 08/07/2015 9:47:12 AM PDT by surroundedbyblue (DEFUND BIG MURDER NOW!)
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To: Kaslin

I never understood the reunion freak out. Yeah you probably aren’t the healthiest, best looking, most emotionally successful, most financially successful person from your class. You’re also probably not the worst off either. Go, relive old times, celebrate those of you that survived this long, toast the ones that didn’t, enjoy yourself.


5 posted on 08/07/2015 9:48:12 AM PDT by discostu (It always comes down to cortexiphan)
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To: brivette

NO! We’re getting better—LOL!


6 posted on 08/07/2015 9:48:23 AM PDT by basil
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To: basil

that’s what I meant to post...


7 posted on 08/07/2015 9:49:52 AM PDT by brivette (lol~)
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To: brivette

I thought so—LOL!


8 posted on 08/07/2015 9:53:45 AM PDT by basil
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To: Kaslin

I’ve never been to any of my class reunions and have very little interest in doing so. Maybe if I happened to be back in town at the same time, but I’m never going to fly 2000 miles just to spend a night hanging out with those people. The couple of friends from high school I’d be interested in talking to I’m already in contact with, and they were a year behind me.


9 posted on 08/07/2015 9:54:08 AM PDT by Bubba Ho-Tep ("The rat always knows when he's in with weasels."--Tom Waits)
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To: Bubba Ho-Tep

Sane, here, I have no interest in any of those people who made my life a living hell..............................


10 posted on 08/07/2015 10:02:08 AM PDT by Red Badger (READ MY LIPS: NO MORE BUSHES!...............)
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To: Kaslin

I have not seen or talked to anyone I went to HS with since I walked the stage when Carter was in the WH. Haven’t missed a thing.


11 posted on 08/07/2015 10:04:22 AM PDT by Resolute Conservative
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To: Red Badger

my high school years were forgettable.


12 posted on 08/07/2015 10:05:15 AM PDT by brivette (lol~)
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To: brivette
Being the only Asian kid in school during the Vietnam War was not exactly American Graffiti or Fast Times at Ridgemont High.......................
13 posted on 08/07/2015 10:07:52 AM PDT by Red Badger (READ MY LIPS: NO MORE BUSHES!...............)
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To: Resolute Conservative

Nixon still had a few months left in office when I graduated.


14 posted on 08/07/2015 10:08:05 AM PDT by Larry Lucido
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To: Red Badger

ok...well sounds like you faced your share of challenges.


15 posted on 08/07/2015 10:21:40 AM PDT by brivette (lol~)
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To: brivette

I have actually googled the names of a few.

On previous classmate, a female, is now a judge in Birmingham and a big Republican to boot, so people can change, I guess.....................


16 posted on 08/07/2015 10:25:20 AM PDT by Red Badger (READ MY LIPS: NO MORE BUSHES!...............)
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To: Larry Lucido

He had a little over a year left when I graduated, but he didn’t know it then.....................


17 posted on 08/07/2015 10:26:21 AM PDT by Red Badger (READ MY LIPS: NO MORE BUSHES!...............)
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To: Kaslin

Piece of cake, be who you are and don’t try to be who you aint. Few you never liked will arrive and you still will not like them. They are the same age as you, and is good to go probably will not be another one.


18 posted on 08/07/2015 10:27:46 AM PDT by easternsky
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To: Red Badger

+1


19 posted on 08/07/2015 10:28:13 AM PDT by SZonian (Throwing our allegiances to political parties in the long run gave away our liberty.)
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To: basil

We are having our 55th in September. We have about 25 or 30 at a once a month lunch so it is not as harrowing as some might think.

The most amazing part of our 50th was that the where abouts of all but 11 was known. Counting those 11 as dead, a full 80 % are still kicking around. That statistic no longer holds for the 55th but at 73, we are in remarkably healthy, good shape.


20 posted on 08/07/2015 10:33:21 AM PDT by bert ((K.E.; N.P.; GOPc.;+12, 73, .. Iran deal & holocaust: Obama's batting clean up for Adolph Hitler)
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