I wonder that same about the angry and hateful among Muslims . What it must be like to grow up seeing your mother, sisters, etc. treated so poorly, and even abused?
It runs deep but the best we can do is face the problem, name the problem, and be part of the solution, not part of the problem. We know there are blacks and Arabs who are healthy happy, and whole, so the potential is there.
The Islamic doctrine of the Quran and it’s partner, Sharia Law, however, codifies such dysfunction, so the Muslim thing is a real problem that again, must be confronted and named, not avoided.