Posted on 04/30/2017 9:09:37 AM PDT by Ciaphas Cain
Mom’s post about not making her son share all the time goes viral
Share! Make sure you share! You have to share! This message is pounded into our brains our entire lives isn’t it? But, why? Is it really necessary to teach kids to share all the time? Are we even thinking about the message we’re sending, or just repeating a mantra we’ve been told our entire lives, too?
Alanya Kolberg was at the park with her son, Carson, last week. He brought a few action figures to share with a friend he was meeting. As soon as they got to the park, Carson was approached by a group of boys demanding he share his toy. The interaction inspired Kolberg to take to Facebook for a PSA of sorts. It should be required reading for all parents.
“MY CHILD IS NOT REQUIRED TO SHARE WITH YOURS,” she begins her post. Yes, those are shouty caps. Yes, they are necessary.
Kolberg explains that her son was approached by at least six boys all at once, demanding her son share his toys. When he shot a visibly overwhelmed look at his mom, she explained that he didn’t have to share.
“You can tell them no, Carson,” she said. “Just say no. You don’t have to say anything else.”
As soon as he said no, the boys ran to her to tattle that her son wasn’t sharing. So she explained to the kids, “He doesn’t have to share with you. He said no. If he wants to share, he will.”
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A demand for “sharing”, backed by threats and/or retaliation, is a simple robbery.
Children are allowed to have their own possessions and to decide whom to share them with. Forced sharing does not teach generosity or fairness. Instead it is a form of bullying. Parents can teach their children why self motivated sharing is a good idea. Even then they should understand that there will be limits to how far their child will go with sharing.
Ditto!
Batting head! Of course — Public Service Announcement! Why didn’t I get that. I’m not THAT out of it — AAMOF. IMMHO. LOL!
In one part of the story, it said the boys had come by car. Where was the driver in all this? Glad the kid’s Mother was there, or those boys could have taken the toy.
What’s mine is mine -— not yours. These kids need a lesson.
The flip side is those other parents teaching their children they can have anything and everything they ask for or demand.
What, you don’t think a baby-gang is cute?
The modern way?
Anyone else find the banner at the end ironic.
It is socialist socialization to make all the children in the preschool and kindergarten take their snacks and share equally with others, dump their school supplies into a communal bin the teacher doles out.
And that is how these young children assume it is their right to demand he hand over his toys. He has it and they don’t, he has to “share” and tolerate their abuse and maybe even ignore their theft since he has more.
That is why it is important to let children know they do not have to share
I guess I should add /s just in case.
“Nothing is theirs, and everything is theirs. “
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Where do the parents come in on all of this? They are family so I’m sure that you know them.
Shouldn’t they teach the children good behavior?
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When kids are too small to understand sharing, they should not be forced to.
No child should be forced to share something precious to him or her. Ever.
When developmentally typical kids reach about four, they should be encouraged to share non essentials. The box of crayons, the plate of cookies, the bag of average sand toys. This is the age when other kids at school are called their “friends” just to understand that all the kids are in the same boat, even if they share nothing alike. This is good. We do want socialized kids that can be kind.
Follow these three above, and you will have strong kids with a sense of individuality, who also show kindness to their fellows.
Gotta love The Dead’s Robert Hunter, truly profound!
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They should. But they don’t. They don’t because they too think that my daughter should play with their little angels offering them all that she has. Then when my daughter doesn’t, they mention how I should have her in school so she can play like their kids do.
The “socialization” argument is one of the biggest lies in public education. In a natural family a child must relate to different ages and so they mature faster dealing with older siblings and develop compassion for their younger siblings. In the Satanic world system the public schools isolate kids with other kids their age. This creates a massive negative feedback echo chamber. All that is evil gets reinforced because that is all a child sees and subsequently thinks is normal. I slam parents when they make this argument. “Socialize” is code-speak for “propagandize”.
““Socialize” is code-speak for “propagandize”.”
That’s exactly what I think !
My daughter has no problem playing with kids, and sharing things. She shares all the time. When they come and take things from her, she gets this look on her face that her whole world has been crushed.
And she’s too young to teach any defense.
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