A lot more married women have to "ask". I know at least one who didn't dare ask. She was "told". It was his way or the highway. I'll never forget the day I walked out.
Atta girl.
I didn’t walk out (4 children to consider) but one day I just stopped giving a rats ass about “his way.”
It was a whole new world for him.
I don’t ask, tell, explain...I just do.