I got divorced bc the first wife wasn’t happy anymore. Around age 40 I looked around. I thought I’d try the dating sites. I had 4 hard and fast rules. The woman wasn’t divorced herself to lower the odds of another failed marriage. She didn’t have any kids. She was Christian. And she wasn’t some libtard.
I had other preferences naturally, but I just filtered out the women for those 4 above. The pool of women between the ages of 32-37, which, iirc I was searching shrunk to almost nothing.
I realized then and there that halfway attractive or attractive women, unmarried, without kids and who were not themselves crazy in the head was a rare commodity. And thus they could get some guy that was better than me. I was broke/busted from a divorce and the last recession hurt my income. Most of the good women at that age are already married it would appear.
I’m not of the mindset to compete with a ton of other guys for these near unicorns. These women were not necessarily wonderful either. They just didn’t have a divorce, kids and weren’t demonstrably crazy by saying they were a Christian while voting for the baby killer party.
Some of my other preferences were normal weight, long hair, traditional gender role values, being soft and being kind.
Then I looked abroad and found hundreds of women who more or less fit what I wanted. So abroad I went. A bonus is that I am trying to do an end run around feminism. That’s TBD as only time can tell if the wife will become westernized.
Since you were divorced perhaps one of the reasons you couldn't find a woman who met your standards is that the women were also following your rules?
Gee, I didn’t know dating was so complicated. After all you went through, I hope you found your soulmate. Best wishes.
If you were looking for hell, you’ve found it. Just my opinion. Pay me no mind and good luck.
Those sound reasonable but most women don't wear their hair long very far into their 30s.