Posted on 12/06/2017 12:12:07 AM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
When I was 23 years old, my boss would look down the gap at the waistband of my jeans when he walked past my desk. I was an entry-level fact-checker at my first magazine job, and he was an older and more powerful editor. My career, at the time, was in his hands. Once, when we had finished working on a story together, he suggested we get a drink to celebrate. It was a Friday night, and I remember feeling extremely nervous as we sat across from each other in a dark bar. He was flirting with me, I could tell. The next weekend, he asked me out again. A few days later, he kissed me on the steps of the West 4th subway station without first getting my consent. We’ve now been happily married for 14 years and have three children.
I’ve thought back on that origin story several times over the past weeks, as horrific allegations of sexual assault and harassment have piled up alongside murkier stories of older men “forcibly kissing” younger women who didn’t want to be kissed, men planting “unexpected” kisses on female colleagues, men being “creepy AF” in Twitter DMs, men asking women if they are single in quasi-professional settings, men touching female colleagues in bars, men being “gross”—basically, stories of men, often men with some power, trying to get with women who are not interested. If I had not been interested in my husband’s advances, would that have been harassment? Was it harassment anyway, since he was my boss? Today, many people seem to think the answer is yes.
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Yes, he should not have looked down her pants.
She is going to be run off of the liberal plantation for such a normal, balanced article in the cesspool that is Slate.
Ah, to be in my 30s again.
I worked at an investment bank in Manhattan with too many stunning women to count. A million 20 and 30 somethings one more beautiful than the next.
I told a gal or two that dress was their color and they looked great.
When a few sat on my lap I did not touch them but didn’t push them to the floor. I also didn’t say a word that could be misconstrued!
When my beautiful boss stood over me to explain work a million times over a decade I died a million silent deaths.
When one said we should have a sleep over party I said nothing, just smiled.
I asked several girls out after it was made REALLY obvious that they wanted me to. What we did on our dates was our business.
ONCE, I made a trip to the bathroom FOUR times in 2 hours to pass a gal who had dressed for an interview with another place before work.
She said she had dressed like a “wh...” for that interview.
No, she just dressed Really Sexy and it took me a while to calm down internally!!! But I did. As did all the guys.
Called self restraint.
See I don’t give a damn where the world is at in terms of what’s appropriate and what’s not and how much respect or disrespect is being accepted.
I just stay true to myself.
A great man once told me “There’s times you must Be in this world, not of it”.
It’s good advice.
I also met my wife at work.
Once you get out of school, work is where you get to know people over time (as opposed to trying to pick up strangers in night clubs).
I think the tendency to punish men for being attracted to women will reinforce the hypergamy that exists in society. If you are not part of the 20% most eligible of men, you dare not interact with women, lest you lose your job, your assets and go to jail.
Well done.
She found her husband while she was still young in her early 20’s (instead of playing “Sex and the City” and expecting to settle down at 39), and had three kids. She is a traitor to the Sisterhood.
>> he kissed me ... without first getting my consent.
The implication he forced his way...
We were once held to the standard of decency... today, no thanks to the Left, it’s a litigious matter.
I get groped by women all the time, and I’m not bragging. Even gross ones just jump on me here at university. I think young women are very aggressive compared to what they used to be. If they’re not grabbing, they’re doing their best to call attention to breasts or other regions. I had one, a couple of weeks ago, open up her shirt during class, then she bent over in the most awkward angle so I could see her breasts without much imagination required. (Okay, now I AM bragging.)
These chicks are out of control! Time to go to Huffpo and write my article.
“These chicks are out of control! Time to go to Huffpo and write my article.”
They’ll just tell you they don’t publish fiction and suggest you send your male fantasy materials to Penthouse Letters in the future.
“...he kissed me on the steps of the West 4th subway station without first getting my consent.”
There’s nothin’ like asking for permission to ruin a good kiss, I always say!
We’ve now been happily married for 14 years and have three children. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Allison Benedikt has effectively pointed out that the so called wave of anti-male retribution sweeping the country comes from relationships that are unhealthy, and that the majority of passion that exists between men and women evolves into genuine relationships.
All we are hearing about these days are the train wrecks from women who wanted the cherry but get the rotten egg.They failed to refuse or rebuff male interest and advances or alternatively failed to call the proper authorities for the protection they needed.
Any man who says anything remotely sexual or flirty in the workplace nowadays is playing Russian roulette with one empty chamber.
I get “hit on” all the time.
As long as the line in the sand isn’t crossed I’m okay with it.
More than okay actually.
Gentlemen vs. Cads
My sister told me once, that women love a gentleman but sleep with cads.
After years of general observation, I sort of agree...
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I get “hit on” all the time.
As long as the line in the sand isn’t crossed I’m okay with it.
More than okay actually.
I’ve been married for a very long time but when I was young and pretty, men hit on me all the time. I was never offended, I was flattered. Now that it doesn’t happen anymore (except for the really old dudes, I’m still a sweet young thang to the 70 and up crowd)it makes me sad.
Exactly my story. ;)
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