Here's the brutal reality. Men want sex. Women want Alpha males to commit to them. Women give sex (but only to the most desirable high-status men they can get). Alpha males accept the sex, then disappoint the women by not committing.
Here's the reality, ladies: in a promiscuous environment, yes you CAN get a desirable man to go out with you. But only if you offer no-strings sex. He's not going to commit to YOU, if there are a dozen other women willing to replace you in his informal harem.
In the old system, the "patriarchy" which women despised, it was different. Patriarchy does not mean "rule by men". It means "rule by FATHERS", which is a very different thing. Fathers used to control who got to court their daughters, and used to restrict access to men who were likely to marry them and support them. This upset girls, because so many exciting cads were excluded, but served to maintain social stability.
In a nutshell.
Too many women can't tell the difference between an "alpha male" and an "alpha hotel".
This upset girls, because so many exciting cads were excluded,
Hence the need for Fathers to exclude the "exiting cads" (a polite way of saying "assholes").
This is very difficult for young women and teens to actually understand. They don’t know how they are supposed to behave and they are surrounded by pop and media culture. Females since infancy are blessed with a social intuition in their brains that gleans complicated relationships between people. But what girls pick up now from this sense is to be sexy and appealing to men. In a vacuum. And their mothers are often not helping them. Their fathers are scared to step up.
These poor girls are alone and don’t know what they want, while they are raised to want to be princesses and stars, and they want a man, or men, to think they are special. They don’t understand that most men don’t think sex has to happen only with someone they think is special. It’s a recipe for all girls to feel abused because they care about their sex partners and men don’t necessarily.
Well said.