A very good response to this story is by Matt Walsh and is titled, “You Feel Violated After Casual Sex Because You Degraded Yourself. Not Because It Was Rape.”
It’s at a site that for some reason isn’t welcome here on FR.
Here’s some of it:
The #MeToo crusaders do seem to have picked up on one important truth. They have gone in entirely the wrong direction with it, and learned all the wrong lessons from it, but they are right, at least, about this: there is something wrong with the way we approach sex in modern society, and it’s leaving a lot of people feeling hurt and abused.
But, beholden always to their narrative, they read a story like Grace’s and automatically interpret it as a struggle between an innocent woman and a depraved rapist of a man. When they hear that Grace felt violated after the fact, they declare that it must have been her “consent” that was violated. After all, the only thing either participant is required to respect is consent. It’s the only rule. The One Commandment. The only thing that can be violated. There are, in the modern mind, only two types of sex: consensual and rape. Whatever falls under the first umbrella must be good. So if a woman feels not-good the next morning, it must have been the not-good type, which means it must have been rape.
But the effort to fit begrudging yet consensual sex into the rape category requires the formation of a bunch of new and confusing and constantly changing rules. The overly simplified “good or rape” formula suddenly turns into an overly complicated calculus, and the only way for a man to really know whether he has committed rape or not is to ask his partner the next day. And even then, she may not make the determination until the following week, or next month after she sees you on TV winning a Golden Globe. And suddenly we have fixed the problem of sex in modern society by turning it into a criminal act. Ironically, conservatives are always accused of wanting to criminalize promiscuity but liberals have actually done it.
Their narratives and formulas have blinded them. They don’t understand that a person can be consensually violated during sex. A woman can unmistakably communicate consent — say, by getting naked in a strange man’s living room and grabbing his genitals — but still wind up feeling degraded and abused by the end of it because her dignity was violated. They don’t understand this concept because they don’t understand that human beings have inherent dignity to begin with. It’s like trying to diagnose a heart condition while denying the existence of the heart.
Here is the reality: Sex that consensually violates the dignity of a person is immoral and harmful, but legal and reciprocal. Casual sex — sex between strangers who just met on Tinder or at a party — is a mutual violation of human dignity. Both partners reduce the other to mere flesh and bone; a set of body parts with no soul or purpose other than to be used as a glorified masturbatory device. This is the essence of casual sex. It’s what makes it casual. And it’s why you have that icky feeling the next morning.
Great post. When snowflakes feel uncomfortable they aren’t trained to examine their actions they look for someone else to blame.
Sexual activity without intimacy is hollowing out our culture, destroying the concept of the family and stripping children of it’s stability and many benefits.
We can see the results of this destructive liberal philosophy throughout America and even more where it began, in Northern Europe. Starting as a rebellion against restraints and for “sexual freedom” it and ended with chaos and alienation. Children growing up unable to trust & form relationships, focused on the self, unable to commit in a more general sense without the character traits that enable success. Hopefully the pendulum will be swinging soon.
Then she should stop engaging in casual sex. She should stop dating men who are only interested in her for casual sex, and perhaps get married, while still young, to a man who is willing to love her and marry her.
Here's another piece of information that women don't want to hear: you are at your most desirable between the ages of 18 and 25. This is when you need to find a husband. Likely prospects will probably be five to ten years older than you. The longer you wait, the more meager your choices will be.