Bet they’re complaining to their female friends that their boyfriends just aren’t spontaneous enough.
This is all by design: Creating a wedge along gender lines, to go along with the wedges created along ethnic, class, religious lines. A strategy that allows a small population to control a MUCH larger one - and in this case, to return women to the Democratic fold after Trump carried white women RUNNING AGAINST A WHITE WOMAN.
That may not be what they are complaining about but they are complaining.