She nailed it with exception to the violent video games. Violence in video games is only relevant when morals and parental guidance are adrift in the child’s development.
My wife was an excellent teacher. She moved a different district 3 times because of the bad behavior she encountered daily and lack of support from administrators, who were afraid of parents who complained when their children were disciplined. My job took me into classrooms where class was in session, and what I observed disgusted me. Kid using the F word in front of the teachers, throwing things. I would have gotten my butt busted in the 60’s, and much worse when my parents found out.Time to close down the public schools and privatize. I don’t see any hope.
Seeing as your qualifier is EXACTLY what she's complaining about, your exception of video gaming is nonsensical.
Video games do, in fact, inculcate a sophisticated strategic mindset that is contrary to civil society when possessed by a person who is morally neutered and untouched by life experience: just like these kids.
Furthermore, when these kids are in "gamer mode," the abilities and decision tree hard wired into their nervous systems from years of practice is frightening.