More important than anything....move somewhere where you can find a job.
It costs about 10k to move your average family across country and if you don’t have a job waiting, you have just lit fire to a bunch of money.
Also know you are not going to find everything on your list.
Some places are affordable but jobs are unavailable.
Others have poor weather or have frequent storms.
Invest some time into doing research and then fly in to see if you like it and check on home prices.
On moving: Here are some tips.
1. Go to you local wholesaler of cardboard and by single wall boxes. All the same size.
2. Buy colored stickers, different color for each room, placed on three different sides so color can be seen however stacked.
3. Buy newspaper for cushion wrap.
4. Goodwill/SA for a lot of cheap blankets for wrapping base furniture.
5. Contact trucking company to lease one or two 20’ pups. The companies usually give you five days to pack and unpack at distination For more, private post.