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A Good Man Is Still Hard to Find
Townhall.com ^ | April 6, 2018 | Suzanne Fields

Posted on 04/06/2018 7:07:09 AM PDT by Kaslin

Women have been complaining since the original Adams family was evicted from the Garden of Eden that "A good man is hard to find." Despite radical feminist mockery of the very idea of manliness, that men are natural sexual predators, most women -- with very few exceptions -- still want one.

The #MeToo movement has nevertheless changed a lot of things in the wake of the sexual harassment-scandal season. One of them is the regard in which men are universally held by women. It often seems we're back to the '80s, when there was a similar assault on the idea of manhood and some women decried all sex as rape.

Radical feminist activists Catherine MacKinnon and Andrea Dworkin were widely credited with saying that "all sex is rape" and "all men are rapists." They both deny the statements, but Dworkin conceded that she did say, "Penetrative intercourse is, by its nature, violent." We hear versions of the sentiment in #MeToo accounts of women talking about their encounters with boorish men.

One recent essay in The New York Times was titled "The Unexamined Brutality of the Male Libido." The headline, at least, was wrong. If there's one phenomenon that has not been "unexamined" in America over these past many months since Harvey Weinstein was exposed as the monster in every woman's bad dreams, it's the male libido. It has been endlessly examined, dissected, scorned and denounced.

Sebastian Junger, in a perceptive op-ed in National Review magazine, recalls how a friend once told him: "(B)eing a man meant two things: taking care of your loved ones and burying your dead. Everything flows from that."

Many men, encouraged by the culture, share more economic and child care responsibilities with women. But a natural protectiveness still emerges in violent situations, and women have been known to cherish and celebrate it.

"The definition of a man," says anthropologist Joyce Benson, "is someone you can count on when the enemy comes." Throughout history, men have demonstrated they are willing to put the safety of others above their own, usually their wives and children, but sometimes strangers. This is a male instinct that often emerges at an early age.

When a gunman killed 12 people at a movie theater in Aurora, Colorado, in 2012, four of the slain were young men who shielded women with their own bodies. The female species instinctively understands (and appreciates) that instinct. A British experiment in 2015 found that when women looked at photographs of men, they consistently chose men with combat medals as the more attractive. In a different study, women were attracted to men with facial scars.

Harvey Mansfield, a professor at Harvard and author of a book titled "Manliness," thinks it's hardly a coincidence that a "raw type of manliness" emerged in politics with the discounting of manliness. He notes provocatively that President Donald Trump has a raw manliness, such as that found in Russian President Vladimir Putin and President Recep Tayyip Erdogan of Turkey, "who are rough and gross and discourteous."

Raw manliness, he tells Tunku Varadarajan in The Wall Street Journal, is an invitation to the vulgar, and Trump's supporters "rather like and appreciate his vulgarity and his baseness, his impulsiveness." If women don't like the vulgarity, the crude and the rude, there are many women who nevertheless seem to appreciate the punching back against politically correct assumptions of manhood overly tamed.

Professor Mansfield echoes others' observations that Trump's unexpected triumph was not born of racial reaction to former President Barack Obama but of a backlash in favor of manliness. Obama was a scold who offered reproof with a voice couched in the refined cadences of the parlor, and Trump speaks with the uninhibited voice of the construction site, where rough talk is the lingua franca. Gender neutrality, seeking to erase all differences between men and women, is scorned.

Obama championed an America that "wouldn't throw its weight around," and this demonstrated a hostility toward manliness. Varadarajan writes: "Mansfield says that ... the president has little propensity for abstraction or intellectual complication. 'But he's shrewd. He saw that there was a way to be appealing, and to knock off the competition of his rivals in the Republican Party, by a display of manliness and an attack on political correctness." The throwback in politics drew on old macho stereotypes that appealed to men and women who found the feminist bravado of Hillary Clinton abrasive.

The good news, as Mansfield sees it, is that the steady march of gender neutrality is slowing. The change is not always pretty. Neither are manly men -- sometimes ribald, often roughly cut and ornery. But they can usually be tamed over time. Let's hope.


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To: punknpuss

Read your post back to yourself a few times and gain some insight. Strong men don’t whine about women or anything else. Strong men don’t resent women. Strong men like smart, sassy strong women. If you can’t find a good woman its because the alpha men already have them. :-)


61 posted on 04/06/2018 9:11:18 AM PDT by Georgia Girl 2 (The only purpose of a pistol is to fight your way back to the rifle you should never have dropped)
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To: Alberta's Child

LOL! There are no pro hockey players whining about anything except too many women. :-)


62 posted on 04/06/2018 9:13:06 AM PDT by Georgia Girl 2 (The only purpose of a pistol is to fight your way back to the rifle you should never have dropped)
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To: punknpuss

“The problems in the world today can be traced to women in power ———”


Really?

How about a few examples.

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63 posted on 04/06/2018 9:13:49 AM PDT by Mears
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To: RushCrush

wife says the same thing . It is today’s modern .mostly liberal, woman who has become the problem for the west.


64 posted on 04/06/2018 9:35:47 AM PDT by manc ( If they want so called marriage equality then they should support polygamy too.)
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To: Angels27

Get out of CA, and you will find a good woman matching what you want ere in the south, or midwest.


65 posted on 04/06/2018 9:37:04 AM PDT by manc ( If they want so called marriage equality then they should support polygamy too.)
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To: Georgia Girl 2

Most of the Declaration of Independence, written by men, is a list of complaints:

He has refused his Assent to Laws, the most wholesome and necessary for the public good.

He has forbidden his Governors to pass Laws of immediate and pressing importance, unless suspended in their operation till his Assent should be obtained; and when so suspended, he has utterly neglected to attend to them.

He has refused to pass other Laws for the accommodation of large districts of people, unless those people would relinquish the right of Representation in the Legislature, a right inestimable to them and formidable to tyrants only.

He has called together legislative bodies at places unusual, uncomfortable, and distant from the depository of their Public Records, for the sole purpose of fatiguing them into compliance with his measures.

He has dissolved Representative Houses repeatedly, for opposing with manly firmness his invasions on the rights of the people.

He has refused for a long time, after such dissolutions, to cause others to be elected, whereby the Legislative Powers, incapable of Annihilation, have returned to the People at large for their exercise; the State remaining in the mean time exposed to all the dangers of invasion from without, and convulsions within.

He has endeavoured to prevent the population of these States; for that purpose obstructing the Laws for Naturalization of Foreigners; refusing to pass others to encourage their migrations hither, and raising the conditions of new Appropriations of Lands.

He has obstructed the Administration of Justice by refusing his Assent to Laws for establishing Judiciary Powers.

He has made Judges dependent on his Will alone for the tenure of their offices, and the amount and payment of their salaries.

He has erected a multitude of New Offices, and sent hither swarms of Officers to harass our people and eat out their substance.

He has kept among us, in times of peace, Standing Armies without the Consent of our legislatures.

He has affected to render the Military independent of and superior to the Civil Power.

He has combined with others to subject us to a jurisdiction foreign to our constitution, and unacknowledged by our laws; giving his Assent to their Acts of pretended Legislation:

For quartering large bodies of armed troops among us:

For protecting them, by a mock Trial from punishment for any Murders which they should commit on the Inhabitants of these States:

For cutting off our Trade with all parts of the world:

For imposing Taxes on us without our Consent:

For depriving us in many cases, of the benefit of Trial by Jury:

For transporting us beyond Seas to be tried for pretended offences:

For abolishing the free System of English Laws in a neighbouring Province, establishing therein an Arbitrary government, and enlarging its Boundaries so as to render it at once an example and fit instrument for introducing the same absolute rule into these Colonies:

For taking away our Charters, abolishing our most valuable Laws and altering fundamentally the Forms of our Governments:

For suspending our own Legislatures, and declaring themselves invested with power to legislate for us in all cases whatsoever.

He has abdicated Government here, by declaring us out of his Protection and waging War against us.

He has plundered our seas, ravaged our coasts, burnt our towns, and destroyed the lives of our people.

He is at this time transporting large Armies of foreign Mercenaries to complete the works of death, desolation, and tyranny, already begun with circumstances of Cruelty & Perfidy scarcely paralleled in the most barbarous ages, and totally unworthy the Head of a civilized nation.

He has constrained our fellow Citizens taken Captive on the high Seas to bear Arms against their Country, to become the executioners of their friends and Brethren, or to fall themselves by their Hands.

He has excited domestic insurrections amongst us, and has endeavoured to bring on the inhabitants of our frontiers, the merciless Indian Savages whose known rule of warfare, is an undistinguished destruction of all ages, sexes and conditions.

In every stage of these Oppressions We have Petitioned for Redress in the most humble terms: Our repeated Petitions have been answered only by repeated injury. A Prince, whose character is thus marked by every act which may define a Tyrant, is unfit to be the ruler of a free people.


66 posted on 04/06/2018 9:38:11 AM PDT by Architect of Avalon
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To: Mears

Merkel, Pelosi, Cecile Richards, Theresa May, Maxine Waters, Hillary Clinton, Madeline Albright, Sotomajor, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, - the list goes on and on.


67 posted on 04/06/2018 9:42:23 AM PDT by punknpuss
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To: Georgia Girl 2

I am a female and I’m not looking for a woman. Women do nothing but whine and when a man points out the obvious the mockery begins. Strong men don’t really care for smart, sassy, strong women. Women who are feminine and virtuous and who can cook and keep a nice home and care for their own children are vastly more appealing.

Smart? Most women think they are smart but if they are so smart why are so many of them still aborting their children? Why can’t they keep a man’s interest? Why do they do most of the divorcing? Why don’t they raise their own children instead of consigning those duties to an indifferent person who only cares about the pay? Women are dumb and getting dumber. I would much prefer a patriarchy to this current toxic matriarchy.


68 posted on 04/06/2018 9:51:57 AM PDT by punknpuss
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To: Hyman Roth

Go to church.

A lot of the weeding out process has already been performed.

Still though; be wary.


69 posted on 04/06/2018 10:04:14 AM PDT by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: I want the USA back

This seems like the appropriate thread for this joke:

There are two things that upset women.

1. When they talk to their man and he doesn’t answer.

2. When they talk to their man and he answers.


70 posted on 04/06/2018 10:04:28 AM PDT by Sergio (An object at rest cannot be stopped! - The Evil Midnight Bomber What Bombs at Midnight)
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To: GingisK

It’s pretty scary to think about kneeing someone in the crotch who has resources, too much time on their hands, and is obsessive.


71 posted on 04/06/2018 10:04:54 AM PDT by BlackAdderess (MAGA!)
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To: Georgia Girl 2
I believe gender-integrating combat arms units is detrimental to morale, efficiency, effectiveness, and ultimately, national security.

If I were a strong man I wouldn't say that, apparently? Strong men don't express an opinion about anything, especially with regards to females.

Human society goes through cycles, and right now western civilization is in a period when far too many women have been led to believe that they can "do anything a man can do and do it better" when the fact of the matter is that women and men excel at different things. "Toxic matriarchy" is just one of the tunes the devil is playing in our time. Mocking men who point it out is hardly conducive towards drawing socity back to sanity.

72 posted on 04/06/2018 10:07:06 AM PDT by Wyrd bið ful aræd (Flag burners can go screw -- I'm mighty PROUD of that ragged old flag)
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To: Kaslin
This is the answer to all the questions...


73 posted on 04/06/2018 10:08:42 AM PDT by skimbell
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To: drwoof

Women want shoes? Now you tell me so late after all these years.

I hereby refine my golden pick up line:
Well hello lady, you would look great in these red shoes!


74 posted on 04/06/2018 10:14:22 AM PDT by TheNext
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To: I want the USA back

Bingo!

https://youtu.be/Doz5w2W-jAY


75 posted on 04/06/2018 10:15:44 AM PDT by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: ClearCase_guy
Failure to recognize the natural order of things leads to unhappiness on both sides.

Genesis 3:16

 To the woman he said,
“I will make your pains in childbearing very severe;
    with painful labor you will give birth to children.
Your desire will be for your husband,
    and he will rule over you.”
 

76 posted on 04/06/2018 10:19:17 AM PDT by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: GunHoardingCapitalist

But; as you get older; you’d best to learn to never trust a fart.


77 posted on 04/06/2018 10:21:18 AM PDT by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: GingisK

Can’t argue that.


78 posted on 04/06/2018 10:21:45 AM PDT by BlackAdderess (MAGA!)
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To: Bonemaker

Then one must make themselves interesting.


79 posted on 04/06/2018 10:23:41 AM PDT by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: Sergio

By Jove! I think you’ve got it!


80 posted on 04/06/2018 10:25:59 AM PDT by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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