[freedumb2003]

>>“It’s work to be the only person of color in an organization, bearing the weight of all your white co-workers’ questions about Blackness.<<

I have never asked a black co-worker questions about their blackness nor have I ever seen someone do so.

I have been working in IT for over 40 years in office environments that always have black people.

This is an invented meme, like feeling black people’s hair.

[tbw2]

I’ve worked in IT, and I’ve never heard a whole lot of questions about “blackness” to blacks. Rarely heard discussions on whether a black person held the job due to affirmative action, too, unless they were blatantly unqualified otherwise.

What I have seen is mandatory diversity training where the sanctioned liberal bully gets to call everyone else out on being inherently bad unless you self-flagellate and denounce your privilege. Then the person gets to go around and guilt-trip each person individually, while they and their allies go around supervising and micromanaging everything you do. THAT can be draining unless you’re a moral busybody. You have to be a true believer on a moral crusade to keep it up.

“Of all tyrannies, a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It would be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron’s cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end for they do so with the approval of their own conscience.”
By C.S. Lewis

[Popman]

-—I have never asked a black co-worker questions about their blackness nor have I ever seen someone do so.——

Nor have I...

[Rightwing Conspiratr1]

This is an invented meme, like feeling black people’s hair.

That's not invented. Just the other day a black woman asked me if I wanted to feel her hair. I said "Hell yeah, I thought you'd never ask". And I do remember in grade school when a black family moved in to our all white neighborhood, their two boys had their heads rubbed so often it's a wonder they didn't go bald.

[zlala]

like feeling black people’s hair

Interesting you should mention that -

In the 70's I wore my hair 'feathered.' In choir the black girls that sat behind me often would just touch & actually flip my hair, esp the feathered sides. They said they couldn't figure out how hair so thin could stay layered like it did.

I'm pretty sure if I started doing the same, without asking, to their hair I'd get flack for it. Especially these days.

[zlala]

BTW - I’m a white, blonde female.

[EC Washington]

Same here - worked with Black people, had my desk next to black people, etc. We never talked about race - we all complained how screwed up the Bosses were and how our Senior Manager was going to put the company out of business!

[Harmless Teddy Bear]

I asked a black person once a "black culture" question when I was trying to mediate between a black and a hispanic employee.

And I worked in HR.