When I told my junior high school guidance counselor about molestation by an adult male “friend” she asked me to think about how I might have brought it on with the way I had acted or dressed. That hurt more than the actual molestation because I knew, even at the age of 12, this was not the normal response of a caring responsible adult in her position and my cry for help was falling on deaf ears.
I have found during my lifetime that especially traumatic situations are often not in and of themselves as harmful as what follows.