How about comparing the treatment of the border kids to the treatment of planned parent kids?
The kids are subjected to criminals who let them go for days without food, water, they are often held for ransom payments. We keep hearing about tractor trailers full of people, including kids, abandoned in locked trailers to die without water. This constitutes abuse and is a far different situation from responsible parenting. Also, according to NPR, unwed moms are the norm.