I have called the city “San Fransicko”.
My wife disapproves. So out of respect, I limit my use of that term.
I suspect your wife simply needs to spend a little time in that city.
I remember I used to think it was sooooo wonderful and then I went there with friends one time who thought it would be a great idea to go to the Castro district and hang out.
Uh...not, it wasn’t.
Got to see men engaging in sex acts in public, people smoking pot (before it was legal) and then a whole street corner full of naked men sitting out smoking and drinking.
I haven’t been back there since and it’s VERY unlikely I’ll ever see it again.
I was born in San Franfreako, if I call it Crap City anybody else can call it anything they want.
When that sh!thole starts the next great plague I would recommend that it be nuked into glass.
We can always build another nice bridge across the straight, once it’s been sterilized.