Posted on 07/17/2018 12:51:33 AM PDT by vannrox
It’s your life (bitter and angry though it may be) I suppose."
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Right on the mark, sir. So many of the folks who bash retirees should take a cue from the Asians and show a bit of deference............. but they won't.
While most of these guys spewing this nonsense have probably never visited Southeast Asia, they could listen and learn from the believers in theravada buddhism found throughout the area: tolerance is golden.
Based on my experience of visiting here for 15 years and living here for the past decade:
The guys who say Thai women are "subservient" have never been in a long term relationship with one, or have only known the bar girls working by the hour or the day.
Thailand culturally is the closest thing I have ever seen to a matriarchy. From a young age the females are taught to be the solid part of society who take care of family and neighbors regardless of their sometimes modest means. They are the sensible and grounded sex who control the finances in a relationship while their partners continue to act in an irresponsible manner. And yes, when the need within the family is great they are the first ones to march off to a falang friendly bar to market what some tourists are looking for.
Male children are coddled and spoiled and so many never seem to grow-up and behave in a mature manner. Women's liberation will never catch on around these parts because in much of Thai society the women are already there by necessity. Husbands hand over their pay packet on payday and are given an allowance while their wives make sure the bills are paid. Because if they didn't the money would be splashed about until it is gone without taking care of responsibilities.
If you don't drink or do drugs and if you can be trusted to keep it in your pants when you are out on your own you will find yourself to be very much in demand in a country where most men do not have those attributes. My Thai partner has a solid job and could support herself without me, but of course I give her access to some things which would be beyond her reach without my money. I'm retired so I have the time to do much of the shopping and I do most of the laundry here at home while she is at work. She cooks us terrific Thai food at the end of the day when she gets home from work which we share together. And she is just about the kindest, most compassionate person I have ever known in my life. If it wasn't for her, I would probably move back to America, but as long as we are happy together life is very good.
It was still screwed up in the 1980's when I bicycled all over Russia, Estonia, Latvia (with my friendly commie Soviet government "minder" always keeping me in check). Even then you still had to unplug all hotel TV's after use because they would blow up otherwise. When you come in to your hotel after a night out at the finest restaurant (cold peas and a cold bun-less hotdog if you're lucky) you get off your elevator at the nearest floor with a door (they don't do doors on every floor... too expensive) and check in with your floor monitor at the desk she reminds you to remember to unplug the TV after watching. It was that way all over the USSR then.
Don't even ask me about my summer in Yugoslavia in 73.
Those countries’ marriage and divorce laws probably aren’t hostile to men.
Yes. Misuses of the words, a and an, appear to be in style. Here’s an excellent, related, classic short story that’s fun to read. It’s free.
The Marching Morons by C. M. Kornbluth
https://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/51233?msg=welcome_stranger
When we were doing our Pre Cana stuff, I was shocked how many men and women just don’t know what marriage is.
I married a great South Dakota Farm Girl. She keeps me in line, and I keep her going.
Strong woman? I don’t know. Will she take anyone’s crap? Nope.
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Agreed on your well described perceptions. Here’s some interesting biographical information.
Cyril M. Kornbluth
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cyril_M._Kornbluth
Absolutely ridiculous statement. I’m guessing you’ve never lived abroad yourself...
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