You are correct, I attended a session held by a counselor for women who had had abortions and the issues that came from it even many years later. My wife had had one when she was 15 and her testimony and others would break your heart, it takes a special kind of darkness to consider that what was forcibly removed from you was nothing more than a nuisance or a glob of cells
To say they were traumatized would be putting it mildly, and the impact it had on them reverberated in their relationships as well
https://www.epm.org/resources/2010/Mar/2/quotes-abortion-clinic-workers-and-doctors-former-/
May God bless you and your wife; you understand the situation very well.