In my troop and other large troops, Scouts is a family activity in which daughters have tagged along. Now they can participate in advancement and leadership activities. (it has not yet actually come about but it will)
Over the years there are quite a few of registered women as assistant scoutmasters or troop committeemen. Some even have made the effort to take the extensive Wood Badge training.
We have an integral venture crew for what we call senior scouts that are high adventure oriented. They are backpackers. Girls 14 and over can participate and have for some time now. There are not lots of them mind you but they are members of the troop. In 2017, we had our first wedding of troop scouts. Both finished college and then got married.
From my point of view, small marginal troops have been lost. They suffered from inadequate adult leadership and often did not actually organize themselves according to the BSA method. Adults often did not trust the boys to lead.
The large troops thrive and use the patrol method for organization and leadership training. It works well. We have about an equal split between scouts and scouters. The numbers for each are 65 or 70 scouts and scouters. The adults are not all active but still contribute as merit badge counselors or with some specific talent.
We have an active program of out door activities. there are trips to all sorts of places. We have been featured in Boys Life three times. The most recent article noted a hike up the mountain to the Machu Pichu ruins. Another article featured an overnight on a nuclear missile submarine. We have crews that often visit Sea Base in the Keys and Philmont Scout Ranch in New Mexico. We will send a group to the upcoming National Jamboree.
Folks here rant and rave about the immoral BSA. Presently, we are learning that there are more queers in the Los Angeles diocese than in all of BSA put together. Unlike BSA, churches do not have very effective youth protection programs that alert the group to abuse by adults be they Scouters, priests or choir directors.
Our sponsoring institution is a Presbyterian church
Your experience matches ours very closely. My son was SPL of a troop of over 100 Scouts and achieved Eagle both at 14 1/2 years old. He’s 16 and will go to Philmont this year after last year’s got cancelled.
Our Troop does wonderful high adventure trips as well as Philmont and Sea Base every year.
Sisters have occasionally tagged along on outings. Now a couple ASMs are splitting off to start an all girls troop. Same sponsoring church, just different night.
My mother was a Cub Den Leader back in the 1960’s.
A lot of people complain about what Scouts are doing these days. But on the ground, where it matters, the Troop still has strong spirit and is run by amazing leaders that would not allow the crap that the trolls accuse Scouts of doing.