Sounds like a very brittle relationship, where most people remain stuck on past disagreements and presumptions.
One wrong word, joke or gesture destroys any bridges being built.
I have relatives in my family like that.
Them; stuck on past squabbles, me; patiently waiting (years!) for them to wake up and move on.
Well, what the foreign minister said was not a wrong word or joke. It was as if q family member said you were genetically a murdering psychopath