Lose half your stuff, and 90% of the time you can spend with your kids, and she'll bad mouth you when she has them, and even if you're paying alimony and $2200 a month in child support, she'll dress your son in rags, and you are not even allowed to question where any of the child support goes. (She did get a nice brand new Subaru, though...)
At least that's been my experience.
Oh, and she dumped all my son's stuff in the driveway when he turned 18 and the child support went away.
For some reason, I'm rather reluctant to remarry.
Go figure.
Ouch, sorry to hear that.
Wow! My ex took off in 8/2012 and I was still paying child support to her even though I had the kids full time.
Jumped through hoops with the state and eventually hired an attorney. We hired a private investigator to track her down and serve her a summons to appear. She ditched the first hearing. Tracked her again and she finally made an appearance. I asked for all the child support to be returned, judge said, No. I asked for future child support until the kids reach 18, judge said No.
I took 5 years to get her into court and she walked!
My girls won’t even talk to her now.