I was single from age 43-46. The supply of women who fit the above description is endless.
To understand why there are so many, you have to understand salience. Salience is, or are, those things that make one thing stand out from other things, and as far as romantic partners go, it is radically different for men and women.
The things cited about this lovelorn woman: "well-educated (two Ivy League schools), creative, intelligent, sophisticated, successful, attractive" are things that are highly salient TO women ABOUT men, because they predict success at provisioning. Provisioning is providing, with insight and care.
For men looking at women, these things are not salient AT ALL. They're interesting, they may or may not invoke admiration (depending on his station in life and how he was raised), but in terms of attraction, they just don't matter at all.
How many times have I heard, "What? Are you AFRAID of successful women?"
Men aren't afraid of them, we just don't care about those particular things. If they are present in the right woman, fine. If the right woman doesn't have them, it doesn't matter.
What is going on is a narcissistic belief by WOMEN who want those things IN A MAN, that idf they BECOME what they desire, men will desire them FOR THOSE THINGS.
This, of course, is false and is the source of a lot of trouble and even heartbreak.
But, but, what about the "model-like body"?
Speaking of 38 year olds, and never having been active in the upper echelons of the entertainment industry, there are damn few 38 year olds with "model-like bodies".
But suppose this wifey wannabe in fact HAS a model-like body?
First of all, that's good for a ride (or so I've been told by a friend :-) ), but it's not SALIENT for a man's main objective in finding a wife, which is reproductive fitness. Model bodies don't have broad hips and big breasts, for the most part, both of which are highly salient for a man looking to marry.
And in survey after survey of men who cite the most important thing in a woman that could make them consider a marriage or even an LTR, the #1 answer is consistently "kindness". With regard to our 38 year old above, that's something we have heard nothing about.
AMEN!