Wow. This is true to a level I wish I could express so eloquently. Having been through some tough issues at home as a child and having adopted a child with major behavioral issues, my wife and I can COMPLETELY relate. We had both our son and his brother in the beginning, and only through fear of actual physical harm ( our son was physically violent towards his brother) did we relinquish his brother (only because we knew the parents that were taking him to be truly good, loving, Christian people). We chose to keep our son because we knew what would happen to a child of his disposition - home after home after home then ward of the state until he aged out. Keeping the difficult child was the right decision; still to this day he presents challenges that would have broken me earlier in my life, and I would not change ONE SINGLE MOMENT.