***I think most women that are middle class earners want to stay home, unfortunately it is difficult to afford this.***
It is difficult to afford, epecially if you want a new wardrobe every season, more than one car, a house full of stuff, and vacations twice a year.
Otherwise, there are lots of ways to make one paycheck work. It sure isnt easy, but its doable. Been there, done that.
If you want to live in a safe nice neighborhood it takes money. I have 3 boys, 2 acres, a large house in a very nice safe town that is 99% white. It takes money. Luckily my wife only works part time and from home. Our boys are thriving. But we busted our ass to get here. Not going to apologize either. Study, get a scholarship, get a degree in a STEM field, be an officer in the military, stay married, be involved with your kids. All is possible in the USA if youre willing to work for it.