Did you have you own biological kids, too? Were they the ones that “barely speak”?
I’m sorry for your heart break.
Yes I do and my bio kids are very loving and part of our lives again. They moved out of state years ago to live around their bio mom who I divorced in 1995. They are stable and have their own families. We zoom chat every week and we’re headed out to visit them this summer. The kids we adopted from foster care were so damaged that they went back to the same convict parents that had them. It is a perpetual cycle that I think can only be broken by taking these kids completely out of the influence of the bio parents, but for some reason our state doesn’t see it that way.