One: Your way of expressing yourself is something I see most often in Marxists who are trying to deceive people into believing things which are very obviously untrue.
Two: My point is that if both parties have the same equipment, then it is a homosexual act. You are (unbelievably) trying to argue that it doesn't matter. It (apparently) isn't a homosexual act unless the perpetrator "self-identifies" as homosexual. That, Sir, is a bunch of BS. And I suspect you know it.