Thanks for sharing your story. Thus far, I can't honestly say I've considered giving up because once you've seen the Truth--well, what else can you do? I can't stop going to Mass now any more than I can pluck out my own eye (gross but true). No doubt I've been angry and frustrated on occasion, but that's always faded quickly, usually by the next day or when someone in the group of friends we now have at the parish gives me a verbal smack in the jaw which ends my pity-party.
What's been frustrating for me is some of the bueracratic nonsense we've encountered, combined with the lack of classes or support from the parish regarding this issue as we've journeyed. For all the wonderful ministries and support groups our parish offers, there nothing at all for people going through the annulment process.
With all that said, watching the kids come into the Church and they positive changes in them since--well, if that's what's in store for us, and I believe it is, then it's all worth the wait. PBWY!
Our diocese has a program for "Single Again" adults, but it is focused on reintegrating divorced, widowed, or separated people back into parish life and dealing with the grief that follows the breaking of a relationship.
Sounds like you're way past that. You ought to check into what your diocese has to offer, if anything. You're right, though. There don't seem to be any ongoing efforts to help those going through annulments get their questions answered or just be able to vent over the length of time, and have that dealt with, too.
You've given me an idea..................
We are still VERY pleased with our fine parish and all the folks in it. The Rector is a gem, his second in command is a great young priest (the homily he gave the Sunday after the death of the Holy Father was AWEsome), and the parishioners couldn't be nicer. We finally paused in our rounds of Parish Choir, Schola Cantorum, Handbell Choir, Catholic Youth, and Confirmation Class to attend a Sunday School class for adults. It was great!
Hang in there, be strong and of good courage.