I'm a Christian and this is one of the many reasons I don't belong to a 'church'.
But if I tarry long, that thou mayest know how thou oughtest to behave thyself in the house of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and ground of the truth
And if he will not hear them: tell the church. And if he will not hear the church, let him be to thee as the heathen and publican. Amen I say to you, whatsoever
*Brother, while you are still alive there is time to rethink your ideas.