This premise is not accurate. It is possible for one to respond to God's love, first hesitantly or instinctively, and then gradually growing in faith and knowledge. Divine predestination occurs outside of human linear time and therefore takes into account the free-will response of faith. "when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son" (Romans 5:10)
So God does not choose anyone for hell: "[God] will have all men to be saved, and to come to the knowledge of the truth" (1 Timothy 2:4).
I have many friends who are Calvinistic in their view point
Then witness to them. It is a severe error.
re: “So God does not choose anyone for hell: “[God] will have all men to be saved, and to come to the knowledge of the truth” (1 Timothy 2:4).”
I completely concur with your assessment of the passage you quote above. I also agree with your view that Calvinists are in error, but woe to any who try to witness to them about that.